When my dad is yelling at me for making a mistake after the game, but I already know and beat myself up over it. 🤡
I know you know what this feels like haha! It's all fun and jokes when it's not happening, but when you're in the car feeling like total crap, it totally sucks. It creates a wedge between you and your dad/mom. You're all mad, frustrated, upset, crying, all the things.
There is a solution to this! 🙌
It's called boundaries and communicating them with your parent!
Boundaries are set to create space for you to work through your thoughts, learn, and then have an even more productive conversation when BOTH of you are in a better headspace to chat about the game.
You HAVE to set these boundaries, meaning you have to share the boundary with your parent.
It looks like this…
Dad, I appreciate you so much and all the time you put into me playing softball.
After the games, I'm like a crazy person and really need to work through some of my thoughts and emotions before we talk so I don't snap at you. Can you give me a few hours after the game and then we can chat?
*DO POST-GAME REFLECTION MINDSET WORK *
This is something we work on in The Confident Athlete program and has REALLY helped that dad-athlete or mom-athlete relationship!
Remember... this is a new habit, so you'll have to be consistent even if your mom or dad forgets about the boundary.
Share with your dad/mom or your athlete if ya feel this, but you love each other no matter what 😂
Keep on keepin’ on,