How not to be a bossy leader

Nov 29, 2020

As I sat down to write about leadership and how it gets confused with being bossy too often, I’m thinking about my brothers rolling their eyes 😂

Wayyyyy too often, I have girls that tell me they don’t really want to be a leader because that means they are bossy.

This is soooo wrong.

The reason we get this confused is because a girl on a team might have the title “leader” or “captain” but it’s not about the title. It’s about how you treat your teammates.

So, let’s get this straight. You do not have to be bossy to be a great leader.

The greatest leaders I’ve seen and experienced…

🔥 Lead by example

🔥 Care and empathize 

🔥 Empower

Here is one easy way to step into leadership without being bossy…

💪 The power of WE 💪

Start using “we” instead of pointing fingers and telling your teammates what to do.

Let me give you an example from my own experience.

When I played high school softball, it was “known” that the freshman got the water every day for practice. I’m talking about that huge orange Gatorade jug. It definitely wasn’t the most fun task.

I did the role as a freshman and then once I was a sophomore, junior, and senior, I made the freshman after me do it too… “tradition” right?!

Knowing what I know now about leadership, I would have changed that “tradition.” If you want a team culture of unity, you have to embrace that day in and day out.

As a leader, I would have split that work of getting the water between all the classes equally. We all should play a part. No one is better than one another.

This is the power of WE.

🛑 Instead of…

“Go pick those balls up.”

✅ Try...

“Let’s go pick those balls up together.”

🛑 Instead of…

“Ugh... you need to cheer for your teammate.”

✅ Try…

“Let’s do that one cheer for her.”

It’s about taking that teammate that might be straying away under your wing and bringer her WITH you.

Lead with WE!

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Keep on keepin’ on,


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