As a past student-athlete, I remember juggling all the things. School, homework, projects, extra curriculars, games, practices, lessons, extra work, social life, family events, phewwww
Things got crazy. Overwhelming. Stressful.
Here’s the thing that I remind the athletes I get to work with…
She is in charge! Not mom or dad, her!
She is capable of taking responsibility for what she is doing in her life!
She can make the most of her time.
Busy is not an excuse!
Busy = opportunities
She can balance a lot of things!
The way you can help your athlete juggle all the things is with a PLAN! A plan creates confidence.
Enforce using a planner/agenda
This week in Mindset Lessons, I am teaching the girls the importance of using a planner/agenda and how to start with a to-do braindump to help them relieve the overwhelm, stress, and feeling like they are juggling 100 things in their !
Does your athlete not always feel like…
getting those extra reps in on her own?
studying for those test days in advance instead of cramming the night before?
going to a practice that she know is going to have conditioning?
getting her mental work done - journaling, affirmations, visualization?
She’s not alone!
We all tend to resist the things that make us better… But, usually when we do get those things done, we never regret it! Have you ever regretted a tough work out after you’ve finished? Or putting away your laundry finally? Never! It always feels so good!
When we feel resistance, we just have to know that it means it’s something that is necessary for us to improve, grow, and get better.
Now… how do you get your daughter to know that…
The harder part!
This takes discipline and responsibility.
Here is how to get your daughter to do the things she doesn’t want to do:
Are the car rides home a struggle after a tough day?
Does it always end in tears? Or a fight?
Does it seem like she never wants to listen to what you have to say?
If you’re in this boat, you’re not alone. I know you’re just trying to help her, support her, and make her better. Especially because you know she has so much potential.
My car rides home with my dad were… rough at times. Of course, I have many, many great memories with my dad, playing softball and other sports, but I also remember too many times crying on that car ride home. Feeling so disappointed. Frustrated. Sad. Angry. Like I was always letting him down.
I want that car ride home conversation to be better for you and your daughter because your relationship and your conversations matter. They are so important. They help your daughter become the best version of herself as a young woman and as an athlete (aka her success)!
So, let’s talk about how you can have a...
Have you ever been frustrated because your daughter isn’t doing those little things that are going to help her be successful on the field/court and off?
Like you’re always nagging at her to get those little things done?
Well, I’m here to help!
So, this week, I don’t have a tip for you to help your daughter, but just going straight to the punch by asking you to have her try a weekly Mindset Lesson because there is just something about hearing a message from someone else other than our parents.
This week in the Mindset Lesson, we are talking about the little things that make a big difference in your daughter’s results as an athlete (and as a young woman, let’s be honest)!
And, I’ll just tell you what that little thing is that I’m going to teach your daughter about in the lesson.
It’s Post-Game Journaling.
Maybe you’re thinking, “Thank goodness, I have Paige to teach this because she’s...
Does your daughter fixate on the last mistake she made?
Just can’t shake it?
Dwelling on it for hours and hours? Even after the whole weekend is over?
I know it’s probably so frustrating for you to watch her do this.
Mistakes are so hard to get over because nobody WANTS to make a mistake. But, the truth none of us really want to hear is…
Mistakes are going to happen and she has to learn how to get past them so she can play to her full potential. So she can be successful and have the results that she wants, that you want for her!
Easier said than done, right?!
Here’s a quick and easy question that will get her thinking about shifting her focus away from the mistake…
What has fixating and non-stop thinking about the last mistake you made done for you in the past?
There are also a few different ways your daughter can work on acknowledging her mistakes, learning from them, and moving through them. Not just getting over it...
If you didn't know already, visualization is an incredibly powerful tool your athlete can use to create confidence before her games.
But, today, we are going to mix things up with visualization and use another form of it through video and imagery!
Instead of just visualizing and imagining what your daughter wants to happen, seeing her success in her mind, I want you to help her create a Confidence Highlight Reel or Album!
What the heck is a Confidence Highlight Reel or Album?!
Highlight Reel: Compiled videos and photos of your daughter playing, competing, succeeding in a video through something like TIktok, IG Reels, or other video editing apps!
Album: Compiled videos and photos of your daughter playing, competing, succeeding saved in a specific album on her phone (or your phone or a tablet).
How is this going to help your daughter create confidence?!
This is something she can use, look at, watch before her games (in a pre-game routine) as a form of...
Is your daughter just showing up for warm-ups with her team and expecting to feel confident?
Is she timid playing?
Does she feel nervous?
Worried how she might play?
Are you wondering if she’s going to feel confident?
Can’t stop pacing while watching her?
Worried if she makes a mistake and can’t bounce back?
Don’t worry, I’ve got you!
I used to think that just warming up with my team was enough, but if you truly want to feel unshakeable confidence when you play, it goes deeper than that.
You can’t just physically prepare, you have to mentally prepare too!
If you want to be the best, you have to go the extra mile (and lucky for you, that’s not running a mile), it’s just using a pre-game routine that also prepares your brain and creates confidence.
Help your daughter build a pre-game routine (you can even be a part of it too)!
1 Incorporate the things she already likes to do!
After I finished playing college ball, I always wish that I would have asked the best athletes, the successful athletes what the heck they were thinking about!
Like… wouldn’t that be nice to know?!
What am I thinking or not thinking about that these athletes are?!
So, I’m giving you and your daughter a shortcut. I’ve talked to many successful athletes and people too and there are some common themes here.
It’s not like they aren’t afraid or don’t worry or never complain, but they are really good at changing their perspective. Choosing better thoughts. Asking better questions.
Here are some of the common themes…
1 Choosing to think about OPPORTUNITY over FEAR
Fear: I better get a hit or we lose.
Opportunity: Yes! I’ve been waiting and preparing for this moment, I can’t wait to get a hit!
2 Choosing GRATITUDE over COMPLAINTS
Complaint: Ugh, I have to...
We are talking about loving ourselves! Well, more like your daughter learning how to love herself.
As athletes, teenagers, adults, as humans, it’s easy to forget to love ourselves.
It’s easy to love on everyone else. Our moms, our dads, our friends, our brothers and sisters (maybe). It’s easy to notice everyone else’s strengths.
It’s hard to tell ourselves what we love about ourselves and what are strengths are.
In my programs and lessons before, we have written love letters to ourselves. I’ve done this many times!
Yep… mushy gushy, beautiful love letters to OURSELVES.
This is super easy, fun, powerful activity to BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE.
So, let’s do it. I mean, do this with your daughter!
It’s really easy and simple.
Think about if you wrote a nice, appreciative, supportive letter to a friend, family member, or loved one.
Now, put you in it instead.
After the girls have written their letters in the past, I then had...
You are what you say you are.
Or… your daughter is what she says she is.
So, if she tells herself crappy, negative, horrible things, she’ll probably show up in life, perform, and compete like those things she just told herself.
I used to tell myself...
I’d never be a great hitter.
I’d never get awards or honors.
I’d never be the starting catcher.
I suck at writing papers.
I am a bad test taker.
There was more... meaner, nastier, crappier thoughts.
I told myself these stories about how I was just a below-average hitter and I only made the lineup because I can catch.
Bull! Excuse my language.
I made the lineup because I worked my off!!
It’s time to put a to these stories we make up or that other people have made up for your daughter. WE get to create what stories we want for US!
This week in Mindset Lessons, we are working on creating the story that we WANT rather than believing the story that other people are telling us or the story we...
A Pre-Game Routine for Your Mindset!
Use this tool to create a pre-game routine in order to mentally prepare for games and show up confident.