When I have the first conversation with a mom or dad about what their daughter is struggling with on the mental side of the game, I share with them how I can support them, but the best part of the calls are…
When that mom or dad says…
“I’m so excited about this program because I know this will be so much more than softball (or volleyball or soccer or basketball)!”
That’s when I know a family is a perfect fit for my program, The Confident Athlete.
When we figure out that we are more than just an athlete… INCREDIBLE THINGS HAPPEN!
Incredible things like…
How the heck do you figure out that you are more than just an athlete though?
It starts with you.
It starts with asking yourself…
Who do I want to be?
How do I want to show up?
What are my down-to-the-core values?
What do I want to be known and remembered for?
How do I want people to feel?
*This is what I did my senior year of...
You have to fight em’
The negative thoughts are going to come up.
“You suck at this.”
The self doubt will creep into your head.
“You aren’t good enough.”
The fear will sink in.
“You can’t do this.”
So you have to fight back!
Question the out of your thoughts.
1 When those negative thoughts come up, you have to start questioning them.
When you are thinking, “I suck at this”...
Ask yourself these questions…
Is this true?
Is this 100% true?
Do I really suck at this? All the time?
Does this define who I am?
You will start to challenge your negative thoughts by asking these questions.
You will start to disempower those negative thoughts.
You will start to realize what is ACTUALLY true.
2 Use positive affirmations.
Create positive, confident, empowering statements!
I am strong.
I am confident.
I am worthy.
I am capable.
I can do anything I set my mind...
Nervous about that first practice back?
Afraid you might look dumb in front of all your teammates?
Worried you’ll be a little rusty?
These are all totally normal thoughts as you start trickling back into practice with your team.
You know how I know?
Because SOOO many of the girls in my program, The Confident Athlete, are telling me they are nervous about getting back into the swing of things at practice.
They have told me…
“I feel like I’ll be worse than some of the girls on my team.”
“I’m nervous I won’t do well on the actual field, it’s been awhile.”
“What if I make a mistake?”
I’m here to help you feel confident going into your practices and even games since being quarantined!
We are going to do a pre-practice-or-game-been-quarantined-for-a-little-too-long routine to get you feeling that confidence for practice or game.
You’re probably feeling...
The 3 reasons you aren’t feeling confident… AND how you can start building confidence NOW!
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Sports moms and dads
If this is you as an athlete OR your daughter OR your team…
Constantly being so dang hard yourself/herself/themselves
Putting in the time and not seeing results when it matters
Desperately want to feel confident
Want to know that you are going to rock it no matter what is thrown at ya
Then, this workshop is a MUST for you!
I have been digging deep into my own experiences as an athlete, learning from the girl athletes and parents I work with every day, and I keep seeing the same things over and over again that keep us from feeling that unshakeable, undeniable, feel-good confidence.
It took me 11+ years to figure out how to feel confident. Like real, true, authentic confidence.
I am sometimes frustrated that it took me that long...
Failure is a good thing!
Knowing what I know now, it’s kind of crazy to think I’ve thought failure is a bad thing all this time.
We have to fail in order to succeed.
So much harder than it sounds though.
Because failing sucks.
Failing feels like you’re the total loser.
Failing feels like you’re not good enough.
Failing feels like a gut punch.
YOU are in control of your thoughts. Meaning… you get to control how you think about failure.
Here is the best way I can describe this.
EVERYONE says hitting a softball (or baseball) is one of the hardest things to do in all of sports.
So, naturally, I’ve always thought hitting is hard.
Hitting is hard.
Hitting is so hard.
Hitting is the hardest part of our game.
Hitting the ball is freakin’ hard.
What the actual heck?!
Why would I keep thinking this over and over?
Why wouldn’t I be thinking…
Hitting is easy.
Hitting is so easy.
Hitting is the easiest...
I watched this Youtube video about these NFL players who use self talk during warm ups and throughout their games and it was really cool because…
BIG TIME NFL PLAYERS are using positive self talk! What?!
They weren’t just writing it down though, they were saying it out loud.
Here are just some of the self talk I heard from these big guys…
“I’m a playmaker.” - Glover Quinn
“I was made for this.”
“Who do you want to be?” - Randall Cobb
“How do you want to be remembered?” - Randall Cobb
“I’m a gamechanger today.”
“I’m #1, that’s who I want to be.” - Patrick Petersen
“I know I’m the greatest.” - Patrick Petersen
“One play at a time.”
“Whatever happens, happens.”
Your self talk has to become part of your game. Part of your warm ups. Part of your routine. It has to become a part...
I was working with one of my girls last week and she told me that she didn’t want to be a leader because that means she would have to be bossy.
Honestly, my heart sank a little bit. All I could think was… shoot, if she thinks this, more girl athletes think this too.
Myth: Leader = Bossy
Truth: Leader = Inspiring
So, how do you be inspiring??
1 YOU JUST BE YOU!
You are unique and special in your own way.
The world needs all different kinds of leaders.
YOUR TEAM needs all different kinds of leaders.
There are athletes that need a quiet, subtle, lead by example kind of leader and some athletes need a more outgoing, bigger personality kind of leader.
We resonate differently with different people.
There are more women doing exactly what I do, but some like them more and some like more. AND THAT’S OKAY!
2 BE INCLUSIVE!
Nobody likes being “told” what to do.
What not to say: “Hey! Stop slacking and go pick up those balls over...
BTW… I’m not going to give you a tip or an exercise or a lesson, but I am going to share something that will help you SO MUCH.
Everyone has been talking about a pivotal moment. Something that changed them forever.
I didn’t think I had one.
BUT I DO!
I’ve been doing some deep thinking about my journey to where I am at today.
And just like you, it’s had ups, downs, peaks, valleys, ultimate highs, ultimate lows, twists, turns, top-of-the-world feelings, and gut punches.
The moment that changed me as an athlete and a person…
Was the beginning of my senior year of college.
Just to let you know… it hasn’t been all glorious rainbows and unicorns since my senior year, but this moment I’m about to tell you about was everything.
This moment I’m about to tell you about was my first REAL step towards faith, towards God and his plan (and I didn’t even know it until today).
I battled and...
I recently listened to a class from Jen Schroeder, former UCLA softball student-athlete and current owner of The Packaged Deal, all about how to have unshakeable confidence.
IT WAS GOOOOOD.
It made me think about my journey to my own unshakeable confidence.
Growing up playing softball, I can tell you that my confidence was far from unshakeable. It was…
I was barely holding it together through the recruiting process.
Once the eyes were on me.
Once the pressure started.
Once my dreams were on the line.
I didn’t hit like I knew I could.
I wasn’t coming in clutch.
I was striking out more than I wanted.
I felt like a failure.
My biggest fear kept coming up. That I wouldn’t play softball for a big competitive school.
By the grace of God, Kate Drohan, head coach at Northwestern University, found a need for me. To this day, I do believe it was because of the person I am, not just my skills...
Are you working on your mental game as much as your physical game?!
BECAUSE YOU NEED TO!
What you say and think is what you believe.
So, what are you saying and thinking about yourself?
Especially when hits the fan at practice or in your game or maybe just when you are working on something when no one is watching.
Those negative thoughts and doubts are going to happen.
“Omg. I’m such a failure.”
“Why can’t I do this?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I’ll never be as good as her.”
And it’s okay to have these thoughts ONLY if you take control and change them.
How do you change your thoughts?!
PRACTICING YOUR SELF TALK! Not when it’s hard. Not when you’re in the middle of failure. Every single day !
You have to practice self talk daily to have confidence.
I know it seems like it is hard to find time to work on your mental game, but it is...
A Pre-Game Routine for Your Mindset!
Use this tool to create a pre-game routine in order to mentally prepare for games and show up confident.