The 3 reasons you aren’t feeling confident… AND how you can start building confidence NOW!
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Sports moms and dads
If this is you as an athlete OR your daughter OR your team…
Constantly being so dang hard yourself/herself/themselves
Putting in the time and not seeing results when it matters
Desperately want to feel confident
Want to know that you are going to rock it no matter what is thrown at ya
Then, this workshop is a MUST for you!
I have been digging deep into my own experiences as an athlete, learning from the girl athletes and parents I work with every day, and I keep seeing the same things over and over again that keep us from feeling that unshakeable, undeniable, feel-good confidence.
It took me 11+ years to figure out how to feel confident. Like real, true, authentic confidence.
I am sometimes frustrated that it took me that long...
Failure is a good thing!
Knowing what I know now, it’s kind of crazy to think I’ve thought failure is a bad thing all this time.
We have to fail in order to succeed.
So much harder than it sounds though.
Because failing sucks.
Failing feels like you’re the total loser.
Failing feels like you’re not good enough.
Failing feels like a gut punch.
YOU are in control of your thoughts. Meaning… you get to control how you think about failure.
Here is the best way I can describe this.
EVERYONE says hitting a softball (or baseball) is one of the hardest things to do in all of sports.
So, naturally, I’ve always thought hitting is hard.
Hitting is hard.
Hitting is so hard.
Hitting is the hardest part of our game.
Hitting the ball is freakin’ hard.
What the actual heck?!
Why would I keep thinking this over and over?
Why wouldn’t I be thinking…
Hitting is easy.
Hitting is so easy.
Hitting is the easiest...
I watched this Youtube video about these NFL players who use self talk during warm ups and throughout their games and it was really cool because…
BIG TIME NFL PLAYERS are using positive self talk! What?!
They weren’t just writing it down though, they were saying it out loud.
Here are just some of the self talk I heard from these big guys…
“I’m a playmaker.” - Glover Quinn
“I was made for this.”
“Who do you want to be?” - Randall Cobb
“How do you want to be remembered?” - Randall Cobb
“I’m a gamechanger today.”
“I’m #1, that’s who I want to be.” - Patrick Petersen
“I know I’m the greatest.” - Patrick Petersen
“One play at a time.”
“Whatever happens, happens.”
Your self talk has to become part of your game. Part of your warm ups. Part of your routine. It has to become a part...
I was working with one of my girls last week and she told me that she didn’t want to be a leader because that means she would have to be bossy.
Honestly, my heart sank a little bit. All I could think was… shoot, if she thinks this, more girl athletes think this too.
Myth: Leader = Bossy
Truth: Leader = Inspiring
So, how do you be inspiring??
1 YOU JUST BE YOU!
You are unique and special in your own way.
The world needs all different kinds of leaders.
YOUR TEAM needs all different kinds of leaders.
There are athletes that need a quiet, subtle, lead by example kind of leader and some athletes need a more outgoing, bigger personality kind of leader.
We resonate differently with different people.
There are more women doing exactly what I do, but some like them more and some like more. AND THAT’S OKAY!
2 BE INCLUSIVE!
Nobody likes being “told” what to do.
What not to say: “Hey! Stop slacking and go pick up those balls over...
BTW… I’m not going to give you a tip or an exercise or a lesson, but I am going to share something that will help you SO MUCH.
Everyone has been talking about a pivotal moment. Something that changed them forever.
I didn’t think I had one.
BUT I DO!
I’ve been doing some deep thinking about my journey to where I am at today.
And just like you, it’s had ups, downs, peaks, valleys, ultimate highs, ultimate lows, twists, turns, top-of-the-world feelings, and gut punches.
The moment that changed me as an athlete and a person…
Was the beginning of my senior year of college.
Just to let you know… it hasn’t been all glorious rainbows and unicorns since my senior year, but this moment I’m about to tell you about was everything.
This moment I’m about to tell you about was my first REAL step towards faith, towards God and his plan (and I didn’t even know it until today).
I battled and...
I recently listened to a class from Jen Schroeder, former UCLA softball student-athlete and current owner of The Packaged Deal, all about how to have unshakeable confidence.
IT WAS GOOOOOD.
It made me think about my journey to my own unshakeable confidence.
Growing up playing softball, I can tell you that my confidence was far from unshakeable. It was…
I was barely holding it together through the recruiting process.
Once the eyes were on me.
Once the pressure started.
Once my dreams were on the line.
I didn’t hit like I knew I could.
I wasn’t coming in clutch.
I was striking out more than I wanted.
I felt like a failure.
My biggest fear kept coming up. That I wouldn’t play softball for a big competitive school.
By the grace of God, Kate Drohan, head coach at Northwestern University, found a need for me. To this day, I do believe it was because of the person I am, not just my skills...
Are you working on your mental game as much as your physical game?!
BECAUSE YOU NEED TO!
What you say and think is what you believe.
So, what are you saying and thinking about yourself?
Especially when hits the fan at practice or in your game or maybe just when you are working on something when no one is watching.
Those negative thoughts and doubts are going to happen.
“Omg. I’m such a failure.”
“Why can’t I do this?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I’ll never be as good as her.”
And it’s okay to have these thoughts ONLY if you take control and change them.
How do you change your thoughts?!
PRACTICING YOUR SELF TALK! Not when it’s hard. Not when you’re in the middle of failure. Every single day !
You have to practice self talk daily to have confidence.
I know it seems like it is hard to find time to work on your mental game, but it is...
You’re probably thinking, yeah right?! How is this girl, Paige, going to get my daughter to listen to me? Eye roll X 12.
The thing is…
You’re doing it wrong.
Oops. Did I say that out loud? Lol. Well, maybe not all of you… but, this is still important.
Your daughter might not be listening to you, but they sure as heck are watching you.
Watching your every move.
So, I have some questions for you!
How do you respond to failure?
How do you react to disappointment?
What do you do when someone (your kids) make you so angry?
What is your morning routine?
How do you handle stress?
What are you doing to stay motivated?
Okay, woah. I’ll stop there. That’s enough to reflect on for one day. But! I’ve got you thinking, right?!
We teach these girls to be leaders. To lead by example.
They are watching you, not listening to you. Lead by example!
I used to think that it was all my coaches’ fault.
I look back and I totally played “the victim card” at times.
You’re probably thinking… what the heck is the victim card?
It’s this thing when you blame everyone else for why your life and success isn’t going the way you want it and instead of taking action and taking responsibility you find the easy way out.
It’s okay, there’s more than enough time to turn this thing around.
I have had coaches that...
were really hard on me
yelled at me
were disappointed in me
I have also had coaches that…
pushed me because they knew I had more
I used to think my lack of confidence was because of my coach.
I used to think that my lack of playing time was because of my coach.
But it was me.
I know NOW...
When things started to get really serious, all I could think of was how do I show up even bigger for these girls? These girl athletes who have lost their sport. Lost their seasons. Lost their way.
If I am feeling sadness, fear, anxiety, overwhelm, stress, uncertainty, and so many more emotions, these girls must be feeling them too.
So, I added bonus sessions for the girls in my mentorship to start because I wanted to create a place they could come together and keep growing. To keep getting better. To keep taking steps towards their goals and dreams. To stay consistent. To keep a positive mindset. To work on confidence. To keep routine in their lives.
It’s been AMAZING already. The girls are LOVING it. So, I decided I wanted to invite more of the girl athlete community in on this!
What is it?
2 sessions a day
Monday through Friday (like school)
*Until April 3rd at least with possibility to extend
A Pre-Game Routine for Your Mindset!
Use this tool to create a pre-game routine in order to mentally prepare for games and show up confident.