What do you do?! She has to keep going, right?!
She probably wants to quit because...
Coaches just aren't understanding her
Too much pressure
Can't take the failure any longer
She's just unhappy out there
Her social life is non-existent
This is where the Mental Game comes in...
I know the main focus in sports is the physical component and the skills that need to be practiced, but what we are missing is the foundation, YOUR DAUGHTER'S MINDSET!
What your daughter is saying and thinking is the most important thing because what you say and what you think is WHAT YOU BELIEVE!
So, if she's hearing her coach only criticize her results and never encourage her efforts, she's probably saying and thinking...
I'll never be good at this whole hitting outside pitches thing
Why do I even try anymore
I should just quit
This is too hard
Or maybe she's doing it to herself - her own worst critic!
Either way... the...
She is a consistent, confident, powerhouse hitter on her softball team! AND she believes those things too!
Wouldn't it be awesome to say those things about yourself?!
You'll hear Adri talk about...
How she felt before she starting ACTUALLY working on her mental game and how she really, really wanted to feel confident and happy on the field, but couldn't quite figure it out.
What she practices consistently day in and day out to be the hitter that she has become (amazing, consistent, powerful, confident, clutch)!
How she helps her teammates around her if they are struggling with their confidence or can't get past a bad slump.
The way she gets past mistakes, strike outs, slumps, all the bad things!!
What she thinks makes her a great, reliable hitter in the lineup.
Her dream college!
I am so incredibly proud of what Adriana has...
ME!!! X 100 it feels like.
Slumps and ruts are the WORST!!
They make you want to...
crawl in a hole and never come out
You'd do anything to get out of that slump and just make it stop!
Fix your mechanics
Here's the secret...
Visualization + Positive Self Talk
You've heard me talk about this before, maybe a few times, it's because I'm dead serious!
Visualization and Positive Self Talk creates...
In The Mental Game Mentorship, my girl athletes are visualizing and practicing positive self talk EVERY DAY! It's part of their accountability in the mentorship program. When you practice these mental game skills, your game will LEVEL UP and you will get out of these slumps and ruts!
Here it is!
DO NOT BE AFRAID TO...
ask for help
ask for advice
What better way to learn than from other people's experiences? They've already done the ground work.
This is how it looked and looks for me (PROOF)!
Middle School / High School
I didn't do this nearly enough in middle school and high school.
I did ask my mom for help (usually in a panic because something was due SOON).
You SHOULD ask all the questions about college! What is it like? What does it take? What are the challenges? What did you like? What major did you pursue? Did you like that major? Would you do anything differently?
You SHOULD ask all the questions about being a student-athlete! How did you balance all of it? What did you do when you had to travel? What did you learn from your experience?
You SHOULD ask about jobs and careers you are interested in! What do you love about this position? What do you not like? How did you get here? What...
I get it.
Your mom or dad is...
always on you
wondering why you'd strike out
hard on you when you don't do well
hard on you when you did do well
It drives you crazy. It drove ME crazy!
It makes you want to quit.
It causes way too many tears.
You wonder what life would be like if you weren't an athlete.
I PROMISE you it is all out of love. I SWEAR they mean well, but they just don't always do a perfect job communicating it (no one's perfect, right?!).
So, here's the deal.
They love you so much, they just want to see you succeed (maybe sometimes more than you).
They see the potential in you that you might not even see in yourself.
They only want the best for you because you are the best!
‼Game Plan‼ (because they are still driving you nuts):
Be the bigger daughter and surprise them
Give them some grace, just like you'd want in return
Set boundaries and communicate effectively
Coach them up!
Hugs, lots of hugs
Enjoy your time...
You want to know the secret to building confidence?
You want to know the secret to getting the RBI?
You want to know the secret to being the leader or captain on your team?
You want to know the secret to getting that scholarship to your dream school?
The best athletes and the most successful people in life have positive, consistent, healthy habits.
Here are some habits that lead to success...
The one that I want to talk about today is the agenda/planner.
This is the biggest piece of advice I give to girls that are asking how to balance their sport and school, how to be prepared for the next level, and just be more successful in general.
Step 1: Get yourself a planner or agenda (usually the schools give them out for FREE)!
Step 2: Take a day in the beginning of your week to look ahead. My coach calls this grounding day!
Step 3: Write it...
We want to be confident, relaxed, focused, and instinctive when we are competing, but HOW?!
There were so many times my coaches or parents were like, "Paige, just be confident out there!" And all I could think was... okay, that's great, I wish I felt like that, but I DON'T!
Don't you worry, girl. I'm going to give you some how to's!
It is all about your mental preparation.
Think about it like your practices, lessons, extra work all week. You are practicing your skills, building strength, and working on your conditioning.
Mental preparation is just mental conditioning. Working on your mindset!
This means you are going to have to take some action and start practicing to become mentally prepared for your games. Here comes the HOW!
It's all about your pre-game routines and habits. Here is a list of different routines and habits you can start doing and adding to your very own pre-game routine.
1. Visualization: see yourself succeeding
2. Positive Self Talk: mantras, affirmations,...
My mission is to help girl athletes build self confidence so they can rock it when competing in their sport. So, I am so excited to share this podcast episode that I am a guest on with Amanda Walker, who is instilling confidence in women.
On Amanda's podcast, Feel Amazing Naked, we talk about how to raise self confident daughters who grow up to be self confident women. We give 10 tips for growing your self confidence, so make sure you listen in (and I have them listed below)!
As a former athlete as well, Amanda helps women gain confidence through her lifestyle health coaching program, Feel Amazing Naked. She is on a mission to help women transform their body and minds.
From Amanda Walker's Podcast...
If action is what’s necessary for growing our confidence, we need to know which actions will have the best results. I asked Paige to help brainstorm 10 tips...
If you want to be the best of the best, get out of your comfort zone, achieve your goals and dreams, gain confidence on and off the field, be a leader, and play to your full potential...
1. Visualization - see yourself succeed, see your most confident version of you, see yourself coming in CLUTCH!
2. Breathe - yep, simple as that. Take a big deep breath in, and let it go. Let the fears go. Let the worries go. Let it all out!
3. Be Mindful - this just means be present, be in the moment, get grounded, and focus on the task right in front of you.
4. Positive Self Talk - today we are talking mantras. Create a mantra, a saying you can tell yourself over and over again, write it on your glove, your jersey, wherever you need to see it and remind yourself. Example: "I am a confident, enthusiastic, powerhouse!"
5. Let go and mistakes are okay - I'm giving you permission to 100% believe that MISTAKES ARE OKAY! Don't be afraid to...
This was totally me. I was afraid to make mistakes in PRACTICE!!!
Isn't practice where we were supposed to mess up, fail, make mistakes, so we could get better?!
I was so afraid that if I wasn't perfect, I wouldn't make the lineup OR I would be judged OR I wasn't good enough.
THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!!
All of you girls that are putting this pressure on yourself, we are STOPPING that crap!
We are going to start playing for ourselves.
YOU are going to start playing for YOU!
YOU are going to start playing the game because YOU love it!
When you play for YOU, leave it out on the field, play with confidence, forget the results and the statistics, YOU are going to be a rockstar, sister!
So, how?! Here it is.
VISUALIZE YOUR BEST SELF
You are going to close your eyes.
See the most confident, powerful, strong, beautiful, happy, version of you.
What does that look like?
What do you...