I mean… who doesn’t?!
So, let’s talk about how to completely crush it when the pressure is on!!
I remember getting up to bat when runners were in scoring position. My opportunity to help my team score runs. Win games.
I remember thinking…
“What if I don’t get the hit?”
“I hope I get a hit.”
“This pitcher is really good. I don’t know if I’ll be able to hit that inside pitch.”
“I need to get this hit right now.”
I was defeated before I even had the opportunity to succeed! I set myself up for failure.
Self doubt, negativity, pressure, nerves, overthinking… it all started to flood my head.
You can have the greatest mechanics and skills in the whole world, but if your mindset isn’t strong and confident, you’re ka-put.
It all starts with your mind.
Your self talk.
What you say to yourself matters. What you say and think is what you are going to believe. This is the stuff that...
I remember working soooo hard at practice. Hours and hours. Long, hot, sweaty practice with some good ol’ conditioning or baserunning at the end.
I also remember plenty of games where all that hard work at practice felt like it was for
There were days I wondered why I was even working so hard when it wasn’t showing up in my performance at my games.
For all of you that feel me on this, I’ve got good news. Great news!
If you are…
Working your butt off
Giving it all you have
KEEP DOING THAT!
You’re only missing one thing that is going to make a HUGE difference in your games…
You’re already putting in the work physically. Now it’s time to add a little mindset work.
When I started working on my mindset (my thoughts, my emotions, my beliefs) I doubled my batting average, was wayyyyy happier, and came in clutch for my team when they needed me the most.
Some ways to start adding some mindset work to...
Has your coach or parent ever said, “Just believe in yourself out there!”
Yuppppp, been there!
You were probably thinking umm, yes, that would be great, I would love to believe in myself while deep down inside you don’t believe in yourself at all.
You’re scared, you’re nervous, you’re worried, you’re overthinking, you’re doubting yourself.
It’s so frustrating. Right?!
Here’s what it takes to believe in yourself…
1 Start putting new thoughts in your head
2 Be okay with not believing them, YET
3 EMBODY these new thoughts
This is a weird way of teaching you how to believe in yourself, but this is what happened for me and it WORKS.
Anytime I am facing that fear, nerves, worries, overthinking, doubt and not believing in myself with something…
1 I write down new thoughts.
Here’s an example:
Limiting belief >> I don’t believe that I can be the great hitter that I want to be.
If you’ve stopped to read/watch this, you’re probably thinking, holy crap, she’s talking to me.
The reason I wanted to talk about this is because I WAS HARD ON MYSELF. I still am, but I’m so much better at giving myself credit, celebrating the little stuff, and having grace for myself.
It kind of seemed like nothing was good enough. There was always something more to reach for as I grew up playing competitive softball.
I mean, as athletes we have to be hard on ourselves. That’s what makes us great athletes. That’s what makes us competitive. That’s what drives us. But….. there is a balance. And oftentimes, our scale is tipped way over to the side of I’m-so-hard-on-myself-I’m-never-satisfied.
The perfect example of how being toooo hard on yourself can be detrimental to success.
I had made it! I received that offer from the head coach at Northwestern University. I was going to play Division I softball at a highly academic...
Have you thought or said this before…
My daughter doesn’t even realize how great she is.
My daughter doesn’t think she is an amazing athlete.
My daughter doesn’t see her self worth.
My daughter doesn’t see what everyone else sees in her.
I get these messages way too often. It breaks my heart to hear and see that girls don’t realize how great they really are.
I really think that these beliefs come from…
Feeling like we have to prove ourselves to be worthy
Thinking that if we actually think we are great, that it will come off as being arrogant, conceited, or overconfident
Always feeling like we have to be perfect at anything we do
I often times do a little exercise with the girls I work with and ask them to write down ONE thing they love about themselves…
It’s awkward for them.
It takes them way longer than it should to write down one thing.
It ends up being surface level stuff.
It’s hard for them to write down just one...
Those dang annoying son-of-a-gun mistakes.
They ruin everything. One mistake turns to two, then turns to three, then ruins your life and you want to crawl in a deep dark hole and never come out.
Top 5 question I get from girl athletes…
How do I not let a mistake affect the rest of my game?
Before I give you the answer, I’m going to tell you a little story. It’s good… or bad.
Honestly, it’s hard for me to remember really specific times I struggled to let go of a mistake. Mostly because there were TOO MANY times it happened.
I remember it going down like this though…
I made a mistake. Let’s say this one was a strike out.
In that at bat, I probably got pissed at the umpire for making some bad calls, took extra hard practice swings because I was angry, you get the point here.
I strike out, start making the walk of shame back to the dugout and as I pass my teammate who is going up to bat, I give her a limp high five (super encouraging for...
We so desperately want to help our team win, right?!
So desperately, that we put this enormous amount of pressure on ourselves to perform.
And then… we fail.
Because we are crushed by the pressure.
I can remember very clearly going up to bat wearing my purple Northwestern jersey…
Walk up song blaring
Runners in scoring position
And thinking… “I have to get a hit. I hope I can get a hit. What if I don’t get a hit?”
And this sinking, gut punching, let-down-everyone-feeling came over me.
And then… I carried that onto defense. And the next inning. And in the locker room after the game. And all the way back to my apartment where I bawled, wondering when I would ever be good enough. Or when I’d finally get that hit in the moment my team needed me.
I have worked with manyyyyyy girls on the mental side of the game now and one of the fears that they have the most is…
They are afraid to let...
I am positive that a huge part of my success this far in life is because of who I surround myself with.
Here are a few groups and people that I have put myself around to be successful, inspired, supported, pushed, and motivated…
Mom and Dad
Crossfit Incendia (led me to my first 2 jobs, boyfriend, and current coach)
The Inner Circle (Group Coaching Program I am in by Amanda Walker)
Mindset Coach Collab Girls (Kadee, Shay, Jill, and Sam)
My closest friends
These groups and people have made a significant impact on my life. I wouldn’t be where I am today without them and I wouldn’t be going where I’m going without them.
Who you spend your time with MATTERS!
If you’ve ever spent time with anyone or any groups that bring you down, make you feel small, or leading you in the wrong direction… you know why this MATTERS!
At church one week they talked about how...
Don’t think of Taylor Swift.
What are you thinking of right now?
Probably Taylor Swift! Maybe even singing your favorite T-Swift song!
Guilty of telling ourselves what we don’t want to do.
When we are trying to improve and make adjustments we tell ourselves things like…
Don’t drop your shoulder
Stop being late
Don’t mess this up
These are all great things to know, but you don’t want to be thinking…
Don’t mess this up, don’t strike out, don’t swing too late when you are up to bat because that usually ends up with big ol’ strike out!
Change the way you are thinking about your adjustments.
Tell yourself things like…
You’re ready for it.
I can do this!
See the difference there?!
Now you are in the right mindset to actually make the adjustments you want to see!
This is a really...
I get this one a lot!
Girls are always asking me how to get more motivated?!
So, if you’ve ever thought or said this before…
I just don’t feel motivated.
I would rather just stay right here relaxing.
Ugh, why can’t I get motivated to do this?!
Then, you should keep listening! This is for you!
Motivation is tough.
It comes and goes.
Sometimes it’s there and sometimes it just disappears.
Motivation comes from these things…
Let me go deeper here.
Planning: If you have a plan of action (aka writing it down in a planner/agenda) you are more likely to be motivated to GET IT DONE!
When you aren’t feeling motivated, it’s going to be written down and you will more likely push past that resistance and lack of motivation to GET IT DONE!
Accountability: Surround yourself with people who keep you accountable, push you, make you a better person. Make sure the friends you are with are motivated ones!...